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toc I have chosen to write specifically about parenting styles and the effects they have on children. Being a single mom and maintaining a career as a Soldier proved to be a difficult task while I was enlisted. I never really had a parenting style when it came to raising my son, Jacob, simply because I was not around very much. My family helped me tremendously in raising Jacob and because of them, my son seems to be a well-rounded little boy. Since retiring from the military, I have taken on the role as a single mom and full-time student. I have a lot more time with my son and am happy that I can participate in raising him. For this essay, I spoke with the family members that had a direct-hand in raising Jacob, asking them about the type of parenting style they used. I have also referred to online sources as well as my textbook. With the information I have attained, I am hoping to learn an effective parenting style in which to raise my son. My textbook defines //parenting styles// as the characteristic strategies that parents use to manage children’s behavior. There are four types of parenting styles: permissive, authoritarian, authoritative, and uninvolved. The permissive type responds to a child’s refusal to go to bed by allowing them to let them go to bed whenever they want to. Children of permissive parents tend to do poorly in school during adolescence, are likely to be more aggressive and somewhat immature toward other children. The authoritarian type is low in nurturance and communication but high in maturity and control demands. The children of authoritarian parents also do not do so well in school and have lower self-esteem. They can also be aggressive or out of control. The authoritative parent responds to bad behavior by firmly sticking to their demands without asserting power over the child. These children tend to show higher self-esteem and can be more independent but comply with parental requests. The uninvolved type are just that. They do not bother to set rules for their children and appear to be indifferent to the child’s behavior. Negative outcomes tend to come from this parenting style. Children that are raised in this type of environment tend to be more impulsive and antisocial as well as less achievement oriented in school. (Denise Boyd, 2012, 2009, 2006) Psychologist Diana Braumrind, identified the four patterns of parenting styles (stated above) based on two aspects of parenting behaviors: warmth and control. Studies reveal a correlation between parenting styles and school competence, delinquency, violence, sexual activity, antisocial behavior, alcohol and substance abuse, depression, anxiety, and self-perception. According to a new study, certain parenting styles could help prevent inflammatory diseases in children. The findings are important because inflammation, or chronic over activation of the immune system, could lead to a host of health problems. Children from poor families usually tend to have poorer health as opposed to their wealthier counterparts. For example, poor households often experience low birth weights and higher rates of heart problems and cancer. The latest study involved families, living in small, rural areas in Georgia at which 90% of those families were from low-income homes.(Hsu, 2014) Research has found that the well-adjusted children have parents with and authoritative parenting style.(Anita Gurian, n.d.)Both authoritarian and authoritative parents have high expectations of their children and use control, but the overly strict parent expects the child to unquestioningly accept parental judgments and allows the child little freedom of expression. Another thing to consider, when it comes to parenting styles, is when your parenting style differs from that of your partner. "Most of the couples I see who have children have differences in parenting styles," says Barbara Frazier, MSW, a licensed clinical social worker and therapist in Gainesville, Fla. "It's really a matter of how great the difference is." Having different styles of parenting, gives children a wider view of grown-up values and a chance to have a special relationship with each parent, as long as both parents come together as a united front. (Davis, 2014) In the final part of my research on this topic, I spoke to members of my family concerning what kind of parenting style that they use. The first person I spoke with was my sister, Mindy. She and her husband have 2 young children and 2 older children from a prior relationship. They both work full time but still manage to make time to spend with their kids. She told me that she is more of the authoritative type whereas her husband is more of the authoritarian type. As a result, their kids are well-mannered and well behaved, for the most part. Next, I asked my mom and dad what parenting types they consider themselves. Of course, as being my parents, you would think I could tell what style they have used, considering they raised me but their style has changed since I was a child. They are currently raising my teenage niece. I observe that they tend to let my niece do whatever she wants, making them the more permissive type. <range type="comment" id="517027666_10">But overall, my niece is a well-mannered child</range id="517027666_10">. She doesn’t do so well in school and <range type="comment" id="517027666_8">seems to have no respect for my parents</range id="517027666_8"> <range type="comment" id="517027666_9">but she is an “angel” in the presence of others</range id="517027666_9">. After reading all of this information on parenting styles, I am confident that I have all the tools I need to work on the way I do things when it comes to raising my son. I have a lot of support around me from my family and friends. I want my son to grow up to be a productive member of society and do big things in the world. Right now, he just needs me to show him the way. Parents play a huge role in a child’s life and continue to influence their children throughout their lives.

Anita Gurian, P. (n.d.). //Parenting Styles/Children's Temperments: The Match//. Retrieved from aboutourkids.org: http://www.aboutourkids.org/articles/parenting_styleschildren039s_temperaments_match Davis, S. (2014, February 12). //When Parenting Styles Differ//. Retrieved from webmd.com: http://www.webmd.com/parenting/guide/when-parenting-styles-differ Denise Boyd, H. B. (2012, 2009, 2006). //Lifespan Developement, Sixth Edition.// New Jersey: Prentice Hall. Hsu, C. (2014, July 21). //Counsel and Heal-Mental Health//. Retrieved from counselheal.com: http://www.counselheal.com/articles/10550/20140721/certain-parenting-styles-lower-inflammation-kids.htm

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